Growing up with trichotillomania, I had no idea so many women were unhappy with their hair. Call it naïveté or maybe even jealousy, but I couldn’t imagine that women who didn’t suffer from trich or alopecia had anything to complain about.
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Now I know better. As a hairstylist, I hear men and women of all ages describe how unhappy they are with their thinning hair. It doesn’t matter how much hair they actually have – one person’s bald is another person’s Chewbacca.
When it came to my own insecurities about my hair loss, I would cope by making myself the victim and developing a bitterness towards women with a full head of hair.
In reality, this mindset did more harm than good.
Comparing my hair loss to those without trich or alopecia around me didn’t stop me from pulling and didn’t make my hair grow back any faster. Instead, it left me in a negative mind space where my trichotillomania was the center of everything that was wrong in my world.
At my worst, my bitterness and resentment spread to my own people.
I didn’t know anyone else with trichotillomania growing up. When my hair stylist in high school suggested that I go to a trich support group to meet other people with the disorder, I dismissed the idea after she told me that the majority of people at the meetings only pulled out their eyelashes and eyebrows.
The road of comparing hair loss is a lonely one. It divides those who are suffering from finding fellowship and support in a common struggle.
If you need to put someone else’s hair loss (or lack thereof) down to feel better about yourself, you will never be able to respect them and their experiences. Moreover, you will never to able to appreciate yourself and your own hair, because your sense of self will always be through the lens of someone else.
Every time we find ourself comparing hair loss, refocus your mind and energy on your own goal of learning to love your hair, your trichotillomania, and most importantly, yourself.
So, this is the first time we are offering free try-on opportunity in this forum. This giveaway will start on 31st, August, 2018. We will offer 5 hair toppers (SKU:PM1811, Color: G4<medium brown>, Length:12″ or 16″) for lucky women who conform to these rules:
1.You should register on our forum http://hairlossdiscuss.com/.
2.Introduce yourself in the “Tell Us About Yourself” board.
3.Tell us why you want a free try-on hair topper in the board “Try for Free/Giveaway”.
4.Agree to share your reviews and opinions on the board, “Try for Free/Giveaway,” after receiving the product. The most important point is that we will offer 1000 points for women who share their pictures and more than 200-word reviews on this board. Once the review shows up on the board, points will be added to your account in about 24 hours. You can use these points to get more hair toppers or wigs at a much cheaper price.
5.The selected 5 customers will be announced on 15th, September, 2018.
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This activity will last for a month, from 31st , August to 30th, September, 2018. Take your time to join in on our hair loss community, and to express, share, and help each other! And once you are selected, we will help you place your order on our website, but you should tell us the length you want for PM1811 in your post on the board, “Try for Free/Giveaway”.
All of the PM1811 are in stock, so you can usually receive them in a week. Reviews should be shared before 30th, September so we won’t miss it and can reward your points to you.
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As I hung up the phone, a wave of dread overtook the perfect joy I had just experienced. My oldest son had called to let me know that he planned to ask his girlfriend, his soulmate, to marry him. All mothers pray for this moment-that their children will meet the right person to share their life with. And, I was beyond thrilled about this news. Visions of a perfect wedding flashed through my mind. Suddenly, they stopped abruptly on my head-my hair, actually. I couldn’t see the beauty of the bride and groom. I only envisioned the wedding photos and how I would ruin them with my messed-up hair. That was the way I saw myself-a balding photobomber who ruined every photo, every video. This moment that should have been celebrated turned into panic.
Over two decades ago, about 18 months after the birth of my second son, I began dealing with permanent hair loss. Most women experience hair shedding after they deliver a baby due to changes in their hormonal chemistry, but that gradually reverses itself and they regain any lost hair. It’s not permanent. However, that wasn’t the case for me. My hair just didn’t stop shedding, and what came out never returned. So, I went to see my OB/GYN and she referred me to a connective tissue specialist for an appraisal of my condition. The doctor took a scalp biopsy and told me that I had Androgenic Alopecia-a genetic or pattern baldness experienced by both men and women. It is inherited from one or both parents and can be triggered by hormones at any time after puberty. Hair is lost at the front, top, and the crown of the scalp. The hair loss can vary from thinning to complete baldness. It is estimated that around 50% of women over the age of 65 experience female-pattern baldness.
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Now knowing that I had Androgenic Alopecia, I had to slowly come to grips with the fact that most of the hair I lost wouldn’t be coming back. I stopped coloring my hair because I could see that the chemicals in the hair dye caused me additional issues-weakening the hand strands and creating more fallout. Having a fully gray head at that age left me looking older than I was and older than my friends. But, I just didn’t see any other alternative. I struggled to style my progressively thinning hair, pulling it back in a sparse ponytail for many years and wearing fabric headbands to hide my thinning hairline. Yet every day, I knew it was getting worse, and I wouldn’t be able to camouflage it any longer.
As it turned out, the engagement announcement was the moment that led me to search for a resolution to my problem. Hitting YouTube hard, I watched dozens of videos about hair loss, which led me to wigs and wig review videos. Seeing that wigs were NOT the sweaty, molded-cap designs they were in years past, I started to entertain the idea of purchasing one. Certainly, I would have to do it quickly if I was going to find a wig and get used to wearing one before my son’s wedding. I purchased my first wig. I immediately fell in love with her, and she was in a price range that seemed reasonable for a first wig. The day she arrived, I was SO nervous! What if I looked terrible in a wig? I would have to attend the wedding and find places to hide to avoid the photographer. I know that sounds so vain, but women count on their hair to create their look. Without it, you have to redefine your identity. It’s not easy to do without your hair!
Wearing a wig to my son’s wedding gave me courage and built back up the self-esteem I had lost so many years ago. I got many compliments on my “hair,” and when the wedding festivities were over, I was ready to add to my alternative hair collection.
That’s when I discovered Uniwigs, specifically the LaVivid Collection. I began wearing LIZ, a short bob with silky Kanekalon fibers. Her color, Java Shimmered, was simply gorgeous! It looked like I had just walked out of the salon with a new haircut, color, and highlights! I also own Natalie in the color Shadow Chestnut, and I adore her too!
It is amazing to me how something as easy as wearing a wig can boost a person’s self-confidence so greatly. I only wish I had known how incredible this was going to feel years ago, not having to suffer so long.
— Amy Johnson, AKA @amyonwigs on Instagram, runs a group called Wig Wisdom on Facebook with her close friend @crazywiglady. They focus on educating and supporting women who are experiencing hair loss. You can also find Amy’s YouTube channel at: www.youtube.com/amyonwigs, which is also full of helpful videos for new and experienced wearers of alternative hair.
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